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I’m very tired. I’ve rambled on some below. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -stry…@hotmail.com wrote: > Michaela wrote: >> Don wrote: >>> I exercise for about an hour a day 5 days a week. I can tell my wife >>> does not like that I am upstairs exercising this long. She has made >>> comments I dont get anything doen during the week. (Like projects on >>> the house). I usually exercise Sunday -Thursday. I do it mainly for >>> health reasons and my appearance. >>> Am I going overboard? >> I never know if you’re for real or not, but if I take you at >> face value then I say enjoy your exercising. Don’t make >> her problem yours. >> What is it with her telling you you are slow anyway? >> What’s her rush? >> – Michaela > Why do you think I am not real?

Because you don’t seem to listen to what people are telling you? Perhaps you are just messing with us? > She wants alot of thing doen around the house and when I do something > I am slow. She does not always tell me but I can sense it.

Stop worrying about what she thinks so much! "I will not define myself in terms of you" – Bernd You are creating your own misery. Do you enjoy doing these jobs or not? I think you do and you feel proud (note to self) of what you’ve done. Here’s my wild guesses. They are not meant to offend. Because you are so thorough with the quality of your work, she can’t pick on you in that regard. But she has picked up on some insecurity of yours. It probably has something to do with being slow. And when she’s feeling irritable/needs a scapegoat she’ll [probably unconsciously] continually pick on that aspect of you until one day she’s [with your tacit permission of course] created such a huge rift in your "psyche" wrt how you see yourself in her eyes that she can’t stand to set eyes on you anymore. I’m surprised she hasn’t started in on your desire to save money. Perhaps she just hasn’t thought of it yet or she herself has a (note to self: rship with money) thing about money. > I guess part of the problem is I like to do everything myself and hate > to have "outside" people come in. Why spend good money when I am > capable. (Even if I am slow). My wife refused to let me paint the > living room kitchen because it is a large area and would have taken me > a long time. SO she called someone form the outside and it costs us > 339 bucks. I did paint the baby’s room though. As a matter of fact, it > looks better than the guy who painted the living room. That is part of > why I am slow.

You simply *have* to stop her in her tracks with a well-timed remark. Only you will know when that moment has come and what the right thing to say will be. You have to be truly ready for it when you do it. It’s one moment you can’t fake. Choose your moment and words carefully, time it perfectly. You will literally *feel* the shift between your wife and yourself. Even if it’s only because you believe it happened, you will still feel it. It’s in the belief itself that you change things. Some would call it manipulation, but I hold that almost nothing is wholly good or bad. There’s a right time for everything. And sometimes it’s a good thing to use a bit of "controlling" behaviour if you do it just to the extent that you restore the balance of power. If you are to buy into this, you have to realise that she probably doesn’t like the side of herself that is being exposed when she picks on you. Maybe she even blames you for "making" her pick on you. She has no excuse. She has the choice not to pick on you. So, isn’t that a good reason to take back your power? Do you want her to hate herself, but not know that she hates herself? Because that is possibly what is happening here. The more she picks on you the more she hates herself. To cope with this she needs to blame someone else and you are the logical one. Because you’ll take it. Repeat cycle. Also, what about the kids? Don’t they deserve parents who treat each other well? Standing up for yourself at the "right times" will go a long way towards helping your kids to see its value. If you want her to hate herself, does that make you any better a person than she is? It doesn’t make any difference how you do it, (let’s be reasonable here), if you put a stop to her picking on you, only take back as much power from her that is needed to restore the balance of your relationship. Don’t let the dizzy feelings of power turn you into that which you are here grumbling about.  Instead of just throwing paint on top of the old paint > I sanded the walls, spackled the nail "pops" that have come through > from the house settleing. I then washed the walls by hand before > putting on two coats of paint. In the closet instead of painting > "around" the racks I took the racks completely out, then painted the > closet.

My sitting room needs a lick of paint. Please visit and stay as long as you like. Pumpkin/butternut is tired after five or six years… ********* Summat else. Isn’t she being a little selfish detracting from the value of something that gives you such pleasure/a sense of fulfilment? This is perhaps where you have to be a little selfish (a little selfishness is good) and consider your own needs! Alternative suggestions: Make jokes about the cobwebs you see being spun as you fix things. Or how you should’ve gone to the beach instead of painting the walls. Say things like, did you see the Robertsons down the road built their house in less time than it took me to screw this light bulb in? Ok. These aren’t good examples, but I don’t know you, so you’ll have to think of your own. Say things that give the impression that you aren’t fazed at being a slowcoach. Care should be taken to avoid feeling "less than" when saying the things though, cos she will sense that. :: Comments like the above also serve as affirmations :: – Michaela

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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -"Michaela" <michaelashouse> wrote in message <news:4193f95b.0@news1.mweb.co.za>… > I’m very tired. I’ve rambled on some below. > stry…@hotmail.com wrote: > > Michaela wrote: > >> Don wrote: > >>> I exercise for about an hour a day 5 days a week. I can tell my wife > >>> does not like that I am upstairs exercising this long. She has made > >>> comments I dont get anything doen during the week. (Like projects on > >>> the house). I usually exercise Sunday -Thursday. I do it mainly for > >>> health reasons and my appearance. > >>> Am I going overboard? > >> I never know if you’re for real or not, but if I take you at > >> face value then I say enjoy your exercising. Don’t make > >> her problem yours. > >> What is it with her telling you you are slow anyway? > >> What’s her rush? > >> – Michaela > > Why do you think I am not real? > Because you don’t seem to listen to what people are telling > you? Perhaps you are just messing with us?

I do listen to everything everyone says. I do value everyone’s advice here. I have used some of the advice I have received here. > > She wants alot of thing doen around the house and when I do something > > I am slow. She does not always tell me but I can sense it. > Stop worrying about what she thinks so much! > "I will not define myself in terms of you" – Bernd > You are creating your own misery. Do you enjoy > doing these jobs or not? I think you do and you > feel proud (note to self) of what you’ve done.

Alot of times that is true. I like doing things myself. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Here’s my wild guesses. They are not meant to offend. > Because you are so thorough with the quality of your work, > she can’t pick on you in that regard. > But she has picked up on some insecurity of yours. It probably > has something to do with being slow. And when she’s > feeling irritable/needs a scapegoat she’ll [probably > unconsciously] continually pick on that aspect of you until > one day she’s [with your tacit permission of course] created > such a huge rift in your "psyche" wrt how you see yourself > in her eyes that she can’t stand to set eyes on you anymore. > I’m surprised she hasn’t started in on your desire to save > money. Perhaps she just hasn’t thought of it yet or she > herself has a (note to self: rship with money) thing about > money.

She has made comments about me being "tight". > > I guess part of the problem is I like to do everything myself and hate > > to have "outside" people come in. Why spend good money when I am > > capable. (Even if I am slow). My wife refused to let me paint the > > living room kitchen because it is a large area and would have taken me > > a long time. SO she called someone form the outside and it costs us > > 339 bucks. I did paint the baby’s room though. As a matter of fact, it > > looks better than the guy who painted the living room. That is part of > > why I am slow. > You simply *have* to stop her in her tracks with a well-timed > remark. Only you will know when that moment has come and > what the right thing to say will be. You have to be truly ready > for it when you do it. It’s one moment you can’t fake.

The thing is alot of times she does not say anything. I am constantly asking her what is wrong. And I prod her until she says somehting. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Choose your moment and words carefully, time it perfectly. > You will literally *feel* the shift between your wife and > yourself. Even if it’s only because you believe it happened, > you will still feel it. It’s in the belief itself that you change > things. > Some would call it manipulation, but I hold that almost > nothing is wholly good or bad. There’s a right time for > everything. And sometimes it’s a good thing to use a bit > of "controlling" behaviour if you do it just to the extent > that you restore the balance of power. > If you are to buy into this, you have to realise that she > probably doesn’t like the side of herself that is being > exposed when she picks on you. Maybe she even blames > you for "making" her pick on you. She has no excuse. > She has the choice not to pick on you. > So, isn’t that a good reason to take back your power? Do > you want her to hate herself, but not know that she hates > herself? Because that is possibly what is happening > here. The more she picks on you the more she hates > herself. To cope with this she needs to blame someone > else and you are the logical one. Because you’ll take it. > Repeat cycle.

That is a good way to think of it. But I have made comments before. I have aked her sometimes "why are you acting mad at me" she just says "I am not mad" and continues to do whatever she was doing. If I tell her her mother comes over too much she just does not say anything back and continues the behaviour. Granted, we dont go back and forth on this all the time. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Also, what about the kids? Don’t they deserve parents > who treat each other well? Standing up for yourself at > the "right times" will go a long way towards helping > your kids to see its value. > If you want her to hate herself, does that make you any > better a person than she is? > It doesn’t make any difference how you do it, (let’s be > reasonable here), if you put a stop to her picking on > you, only take back as much power from her that is > needed to restore the balance of your relationship. > Don’t let the dizzy feelings of power turn you into > that which you are here grumbling about. >  Instead of just throwing paint on top of the old paint > > I sanded the walls, spackled the nail "pops" that have come through > > from the house settleing. I then washed the walls by hand before > > putting on two coats of paint. In the closet instead of painting > > "around" the racks I took the racks completely out, then painted the > > closet. > My sitting room needs a lick of paint. Please visit and stay as > long as you like. Pumpkin/butternut is tired after five or > six years… > ********* > Summat else. Isn’t she being a little selfish detracting from > the value of something that gives you such pleasure/a sense > of fulfilment? This is perhaps where you have to be a little > selfish (a little selfishness is good) and consider your own > needs! > Alternative suggestions: > Make jokes about the cobwebs you see being spun as you > fix things. Or how you should’ve gone to the beach instead > of painting the walls. > Say things like, did you see the Robertsons down the road > built their house in less time than it took me to screw this > light bulb in? > Ok. These aren’t good examples, but I don’t know you, so > you’ll have to think of your own. > Say things that give the impression that you aren’t fazed at > being a slowcoach. Care should be taken to avoid feeling > "less than" when saying the things though, cos she will sense > that. > :: Comments like the above also serve as affirmations :: > – Michaela

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stry…@hotmail.com (Don) wrote in message <news:1a66b8fe.0411100550.59b338c@posting.google.com>… > I exercise for about an hour a day 5 days a week. I can tell my wife > does not like that I am upstairs exercising this long. She has made > comments I dont get anything doen during the week. (Like projects on > the house). I usually exercise Sunday -Thursday. I do it mainly for > health reasons and my appearance. > Am I going overboard?

5 hours per week is not at all too much to exercise (unless you have some medical issue).  If you have an understanding that you’re going to do house projects as well, you just have to balance that in in a way that both of you can accept.  If you only have 10 hours of spare time per week, and after including stretching and showering that leaves only two hours for house work, I can see how that could be a problem.  But most people have more time than that in a week.

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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -Lash Rambo wrote: > stry…@hotmail.com (Don) wrote in > news:1a66b8fe.0411100550.59b338c@posting.google.com: > > I exercise for about an hour a day 5 days a week. I can tell my wife > > does not like that I am upstairs exercising this long. She has made > > comments I dont get anything doen during the week. (Like projects on > > the house). I usually exercise Sunday -Thursday. I do it mainly for > > health reasons and my appearance. > > Am I going overboard? > What does your wife do around the house?  She seems to complain excessively > about your doing nothing, so naturally, she’s busting ass on chores every > day, right?  RIGHT?

She does alot of housework but not every day. Alot of days she is reading a book in the lazy boy. (She is addicted to reading novels). Just her acting like she does not like it makes me feel guilty. I plan on doing some house work tonight while she is at a birthday party for her neice.

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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->Dolores <weaselpant…@sinmonkey.com> wrote in message ><news:uZ-dnX-2btMkcA7cRVn-3w@comcast.com>… >> An hour a day five days a week isn’t that much. I suspect that the real >> problem she has is that she wants to spend more time with you, but in >> typical american-style is afraid to just say so because then you might >> say no and she’ll feel unwanted. Maybe you could find a form of >> excercise that you can do together? Hiking, walking, running, bicycling, >> sex? >She never tells me that. I am always suggesting we do stuff togther. I >even took her shopping all day last Saturday. When we are toghter >during the weeknight she is doing some house work or more times than >not reading a book. >I have told her before I would like to go hiking but she is not an >"outdoors" person. >I have never once in my life turned down sex! (Although unfortunately >she has, a lot!) >> -=Lola >> Don wrote: >> > I exercise for about an hour a day 5 days a week. I can tell my wife >> > does not like that I am upstairs exercising this long. She has made >> > comments I dont get anything doen during the week. (Like projects on >> > the house). I usually exercise Sunday -Thursday. I do it mainly for >> > health reasons and my appearance. >> > Am I going overboard?

I read somewhere about marriage  tips. If your partner is suggesting that they might leave you, tell them, "do let me know when, I’ll help ya pack your bags". Then they wont threaten you about leaving.

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Oh well… I guess I was being optimistic. I’m sorry. I don’t really have any other ideas on what her problem might be. I don’t think you’re doing anything wrong based on what you’ve said, and I think that unless you’re approaching her more than once a day, it reflects poorly on her that she’s turning down sex. Married people should really make it a general rule to say yes to their spouse, unless there’s a really valid reason to say no (like they have the flu, a painful yeast infection, etc.). -=Lola – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -Don wrote: > Dolores <weaselpant…@sinmonkey.com> wrote in message <news:uZ-dnX-2btMkcA7cRVn-3w@comcast.com>… >>An hour a day five days a week isn’t that much. I suspect that the real >>problem she has is that she wants to spend more time with you, but in >>typical american-style is afraid to just say so because then you might >>say no and she’ll feel unwanted. Maybe you could find a form of >>excercise that you can do together? Hiking, walking, running, bicycling, >>sex? > She never tells me that. I am always suggesting we do stuff togther. I > even took her shopping all day last Saturday. When we are toghter > during the weeknight she is doing some house work or more times than > not reading a book. > I have told her before I would like to go hiking but she is not an > "outdoors" person. > I have never once in my life turned down sex! (Although unfortunately > she has, a lot!)

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Kalidor wrote: > On 11 Nov 2004 05:42:38 -0800 > stry…@hotmail.com wrote: > > I am trying to build a little muscle and get a little leaner. > Hmm. What kind of bodytype do you have? Ekto-, meso- or endomorph?

Not sure. I used to know the difference between the types but if it helps I weigh about 180 and 6 feet tall. I have always looked slender even though I am not. > > Sun-Thur I use a barbell and do 3 sets of overhead presses. Then 3 sets > > of shoulder shrugs, then 3 sets with lighter weight of overhead presses > > where you go behind the back and in front. > > Then I do 3 sets of tricep extensions with a dumbell. Then 3 sets of > > curls with a barbell finishing up with three sets of dumbell curls. > So you train shoulders, trapezius, triceps and biceps. What about

your pectoralis and latissimus? What about your legs? If you really want to build muscle you should concentrate on exercises that involve many muscle groups at once, e.g. Squats, Dead Lifts, Bench Presses, Dips, Bent-Over Rows. Overhead Presses are ok but you’re probably wasting your time with those triceps extensions and biceps curls. I know, I have done the cardinal sin of ignoring legs but there is a reason. I dont have a rack or anything really for legs at home. Also, my legs look ok, it is my upper body I would like to improve at least right now. > > I am wondering about this routine as I dont even get sore anymore and I > > cant visably see any more gaines. (Maybe a little) Maybe it is time to > > change my routine. I will admitt I am probably not as agressive as I > > should be and one day I may do 8 reps of one exercise and another I can > > only do 4. I try to increase the weight every two weeks. > Progressiveness is much more important than aggressiveness. As long

as you can increase the weight while maintaining good exercise form everything’s fine. Also keep in mind that nutrition is a very important factor. You must not expect significant gains without a hypercaloric diet (which, of course, opposes your desire for getting leaner — this is the hard part about natural bodybuilding). Yea, I know. I eat light for breakfast and lunch and eat what I want at dinner. (Within reason). I try to eat low carb, high protein. I am not wanting to look like the incredible hulk but would like to gain some in my upper body and lose bodyfat around my stomach. There is not alot there but would like to get down to 10 or 15 % bodyfat. I have not checked in over a year so I might be there now and not know it. Been thinking about getting one of those scales that reads bodyfat.

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Don (stry…@hotmail.com) wrote >I exercise for about an hour a day 5 days a week. I can tell my wife >does not like that I am upstairs exercising this long. She has made >comments I dont get anything doen during the week. (Like projects on >the house). I usually exercise Sunday -Thursday. I do it mainly for >health reasons and my appearance. >Am I going overboard?

No, I don’t think you’re doing too much exercise. Try to get the wife to do exercise too.

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On 10 Nov 2004 05:50:58 -0800 stry…@hotmail.com (Don) wrote: > I exercise for about an hour a day 5 days a week. I can tell my wife > does not like that I am upstairs exercising this long. She has made > comments I dont get anything doen during the week. (Like projects on > the house). I usually exercise Sunday -Thursday. I do it mainly for > health reasons and my appearance. > Am I going overboard?

This depends largely on what your goals are. Are you speaking of bodybuilding training? Do you want to get more mass? Then 5 days / week might be too much for you to recuperate adequately. Read about HIT training (or Heavy Duty as Mike Mentzer called it). I’m not a die-hard HIT advocate but I think there is much truth to it. The more intensive your training is, the less frequent you should train!

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stry…@hotmail.com wrote in news:1100117460.568528.301210 @c13g2000cwb.googlegroups.com: – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Lash Rambo wrote: >> stry…@hotmail.com (Don) wrote in >> news:1a66b8fe.0411100550.59b338c@posting.google.com: >> > I exercise for about an hour a day 5 days a week. I can tell my > wife >> > does not like that I am upstairs exercising this long. She has made >> > comments I dont get anything doen during the week. (Like projects > on >> > the house). I usually exercise Sunday -Thursday. I do it mainly for >> > health reasons and my appearance. >> > Am I going overboard? >> What does your wife do around the house?  She seems to complain > excessively >> about your doing nothing, so naturally, she’s busting ass on chores > every >> day, right?  RIGHT? > She does alot of housework but not every day. Alot of days she is > reading a book in the lazy boy. (She is addicted to reading novels). > Just her acting like she does not like it makes me feel guilty. I plan > on doing some house work tonight while she is at a birthday party for > her neice.

Do you feel that the household chores are divided appropriately between you and your wife?

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Don wrote: > I exercise for about an hour a day 5 days a week. I can tell my wife > does not like that I am upstairs exercising this long. She has made > comments I dont get anything doen during the week. (Like projects on > the house). I usually exercise Sunday -Thursday. I do it mainly for > health reasons and my appearance. > Am I going overboard?

I never know if you’re for real or not, but if I take you at face value then I say enjoy your exercising. Don’t make her problem yours. What is it with her telling you you are slow anyway? What’s her rush? – Michaela

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>I exercise for about an hour a day 5 days a week. I can tell my wife >does not like that I am upstairs exercising this long. She has made >comments I dont get anything doen during the week. (Like projects on >the house). I usually exercise Sunday -Thursday. I do it mainly for >health reasons and my appearance. >Am I going overboard?

An hour exercise every day is good.   Looks like wifey is bit pushing you a lot about work. Tell her, she can read the damn novel when she is retired, ask her to give a hand with your work. She must be 9 months pregnant now, dont ask her now.

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>I exercise for about an hour a day 5 days a week. I can tell my wife >does not like that I am upstairs exercising this long. She has made >comments I dont get anything doen during the week. (Like projects on >the house). I usually exercise Sunday -Thursday. I do it mainly for >health reasons and my appearance. >Am I going overboard?

an hour of exercise is most certainly NOT too much.  she’s just being a pain in the ass. – k i t z – "you forgot poland." – bush, being his usual idiot self.

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On 11 Nov 2004 05:42:38 -0800 stry…@hotmail.com wrote: > I am trying to build a little muscle and get a little leaner.

Hmm. What kind of bodytype do you have? Ekto-, meso- or endomorph? > Sun-Thur I use a barbell and do 3 sets of overhead presses. Then 3 sets > of shoulder shrugs, then 3 sets with lighter weight of overhead presses > where you go behind the back and in front. > Then I do 3 sets of tricep extensions with a dumbell. Then 3 sets of > curls with a barbell finishing up with three sets of dumbell curls.

So you train shoulders, trapezius, triceps and biceps. What about your pectoralis and latissimus? What about your legs? If you really want to build muscle you should concentrate on exercises that involve many muscle groups at once, e.g. Squats, Dead Lifts, Bench Presses, Dips, Bent-Over Rows. Overhead Presses are ok but you’re probably wasting your time with those triceps extensions and biceps curls. > I am wondering about this routine as I dont even get sore anymore and I > cant visably see any more gaines. (Maybe a little) Maybe it is time to > change my routine. I will admitt I am probably not as agressive as I > should be and one day I may do 8 reps of one exercise and another I can > only do 4. I try to increase the weight every two weeks.

Progressiveness is much more important than aggressiveness. As long as you can increase the weight while maintaining good exercise form everything’s fine. Also keep in mind that nutrition is a very important factor. You must not expect significant gains without a hypercaloric diet (which, of course, opposes your desire for getting leaner — this is the hard part about natural bodybuilding).

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An hour a day five days a week isn’t that much. I suspect that the real problem she has is that she wants to spend more time with you, but in typical american-style is afraid to just say so because then you might say no and she’ll feel unwanted. Maybe you could find a form of excercise that you can do together? Hiking, walking, running, bicycling, sex? -=Lola – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -Don wrote: > I exercise for about an hour a day 5 days a week. I can tell my wife > does not like that I am upstairs exercising this long. She has made > comments I dont get anything doen during the week. (Like projects on > the house). I usually exercise Sunday -Thursday. I do it mainly for > health reasons and my appearance. > Am I going overboard?

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Ravenwolf <ravenwolf…@earth.usa.minnesota.twincites.co> wrote in news:Xns959D644F0EA4Aravenwolf469earthlin@216.196.97.130: – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> stry…@hotmail.com (Don) wrote in > news:1a66b8fe.0411100550.59b338c@posting.google.com: >> I exercise for about an hour a day 5 days a week. I can tell my wife >> does not like that I am upstairs exercising this long. She has made >> comments I dont get anything doen during the week. (Like projects on >> the house). I usually exercise Sunday -Thursday. I do it mainly for >> health reasons and my appearance. >> Am I going overboard? > On the weekends, I exercise in the morning.  During the week, I will > exercise during my lunch break. > One time on a Saturday morning I got up and ran a 13 miles race. > After the race I went to breakfast with some friends in the running > club.  I got home about 11:30.  My girlfriend had just got up about > the time I arrived.  That was funny.

I would like to add: http://exercise.about.com/od/fittinginexercise/a/busy_exercise.htm

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stry…@hotmail.com (Don) wrote in news:1a66b8fe.0411100550.59b338c@posting.google.com: > I exercise for about an hour a day 5 days a week. I can tell my wife > does not like that I am upstairs exercising this long. She has made > comments I dont get anything doen during the week. (Like projects on > the house). I usually exercise Sunday -Thursday. I do it mainly for > health reasons and my appearance. > Am I going overboard?

What does your wife do around the house?  She seems to complain excessively about your doing nothing, so naturally, she’s busting ass on chores every day, right?  RIGHT?

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stry…@hotmail.com (Don) wrote in news:1a66b8fe.0411100550.59b338c@posting.google.com: > I exercise for about an hour a day 5 days a week. I can tell my wife > does not like that I am upstairs exercising this long. She has made > comments I dont get anything doen during the week. (Like projects on > the house). I usually exercise Sunday -Thursday. I do it mainly for > health reasons and my appearance. > Am I going overboard?

On the weekends, I exercise in the morning.  During the week, I will exercise during my lunch break. One time on a Saturday morning I got up and ran a 13 miles race.  After the race I went to breakfast with some friends in the running club.  I got home about 11:30.  My girlfriend had just got up about the time I arrived.  That was funny.

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I exercise for about an hour a day 5 days a week. I can tell my wife does not like that I am upstairs exercising this long. She has made comments I dont get anything doen during the week. (Like projects on the house). I usually exercise Sunday -Thursday. I do it mainly for health reasons and my appearance. Am I going overboard?

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"Don" <stry…@hotmail.com> wrote in message

news:1a66b8fe.0411100550.59b338c@posting.google.com… >I exercise for about an hour a day 5 days a week. I can tell my wife > does not like that I am upstairs exercising this long. She has made > comments I dont get anything doen during the week. (Like projects on > the house). I usually exercise Sunday -Thursday. I do it mainly for > health reasons and my appearance. > Am I going overboard?

Absolutely not. I think everyone such exercise for about an hour per day. It doesn’t have to be lifting weights or training tho. Digging the garden is just as good. If it makes you feel good, then keep it up! It’s only an hour a day, most of us sit in front of the TV for longer than that!

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Heartless Pig <heartl…@pig.com> wrote in news:Xns959DA45BFE226er8o3@localhost: > stry…@hotmail.com (Don) wrote in > news:1a66b8fe.0411100550.59b338c@posting.google.com: >> I exercise for about an hour a day 5 days a week. I can tell my wife >> does not like that I am upstairs exercising this long. She has made >> comments I dont get anything doen during the week. (Like projects on >> the house). I usually exercise Sunday -Thursday. I do it mainly for >> health reasons and my appearance. >> Am I going overboard? > Nope. If it makes you feel good, then you should do it. Does she > prefer a husband who is fat and slow?

Maybe she wants him to get fat and slow so he wont have any prospects better than her. Shit the bed, when did I get this bitter? Oh, come to think of it, I think I know. -phy

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